My husband is gay what do i do now

Just as importantly: none of it changes your history together. I am not even sure what questions I need to ask. This is entirely understandable and reasonable. I found your column and your advice helped me through when a guy at work asked me out.

I am in turmoil right now. So, first things first. Estimated reading time: 14 minutes. Your feeling unmoored is valid. I found your column and your advice helped me through when a guy at work asked me out. He recently had his second bout of depression and has started counselling.

He still claims to still love me and always has, and I do still love him, but everything is now a mess. If you’ve wondered, “Is my husband gay,” then check out some signs that can guide your suspicions. You helped me getting used to dating, advice on having sexy times for the first time, and generally working on making a stable relationship, especially when he came out as bi early on and I supported him.

Hiya, Many years ago I was very unexperienced in the ways of dating. It may add context or nuance, but the important things, like your love, affection, respect and the life you made together are all very, very much there.

Plus, how to talk to your husband about his sexuality Sexuality is complex, and there are a lot of people out there who don't realize their sexuality is more fluid than they think until later in life. We are still communicating and basically just talking through everything, but this last chat about a relationship broke me.

You do not need to make any decisions right this instant, nor should you. If you suspect your husband might be. Identify the signs your husband is gay and discover 5 ways you can support him through understanding and compassion. The best thing you can do right now — and I mean right now — is take a beat.

It is important that give yourself some time to process that this happened, to let the ringing in your ears and the spots and afterimages in your eyes fade.

My Husband Just Came

Your confusion is ok. Finding out your partner is gay can turn your world upside down and make you question everything about your relationship. Please help me. We worked on what I thought was a strong loving relationship, which has been going on now for 11 years and married 5 of them, and we have a toddler together.

Check out ways to handle this healthily. He mentioned at first that we have 3 options, break up, friendship but still living together or some sort of polycule. You can and should press pause on any talk of what your relationship is going to be.

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: Many years ago, I was very unexperienced in the ways of dating. Could you please help advise me on just how maybe how I can process this. Things have changedyes. Sexuality is complex, often confusing and rarely moves in straight lines.

We worked on what I. This is also not that uncommon. Through this, he has realised that he is not in fact bi but fully gay but repressed. You helped me getting used to dating, advice on having sexy times for the first time, and generally working on making a stable relationship, especially when he came out as bi early on and I supported him.

But the important part is that none of this changes your life together.